August 01, 2016
The Unforgiven: Beyond Crimes and Punishment
We are often bound to people we do not like, trust or respect through our grudges, fears and hatred. These are people who have hurt, rejected or abandoned us. Some crimes are personal, others hit at the hearts of our race, gender or sexuality. Some have done unthinkable things, others have just offended us. In any case we hold court in our minds and then execute sentences that keep them forever accountable.
We know we are supposed to forgive and move on but we feel that excuses their behavior. If we stop holding our grudge, who will they answer to? Someone has to remember. If we let them off the hook how will we know they have paid for their transgressions? We punish them so we know someone has, because we fear they will do it again. This takes great energy, however, even when it is simply a dialogue in our minds.
Many of us who are seeking justice in the world miss the trials we conduct against ourselves, inside. People who have had Near Death Experiences say that it was not Peter who met them met at the Pearly Gates but a reflection of their own self, giving them a complete life review. In fact their NDE afforded them a second chance to get it right, profoundly changing the course of their lives. We do not have to wait until we almost die, however, to see the trials and punishments we subject ourselves to unconsciously. We just have to look at the scarcity we are trying to overcome.
While we may actually have done something unsavory in this life, or in a past lifetime, many of the judgments we carry about ourselves come from misconceptions about other people’s actions. When a loved one cannot connect because of their dysfunctions, we may think it is due to our own shortcomings. There may even be feelings of inadequacy passed down through our family lines. All we know is that we feel shame and an intangible culpability that deems us unworthy.
Scarcity is the unconscious punishment many of us accept for our perceived transgressions. Perhaps it is money, social status or even love from an equal partner. When we feel we do not deserve it, we will sabotage ourselves and settle for less. We then begin the long uphill battle of trying to redeem ourselves, pitting ourselves forever against another, striving for what we, alone, have denied ourselves. Worthiness is an evaluation, however, a judgement someone has made. It is not an intrinsic personal characteristic. If you are caught in lack, ask yourself… Who has made this judgment?
A lifetime is not meant to be a long penance for misdeeds and misconduct, real or imagined. In accepting ourselves as we are we can stop asking others to punish us. This is not a penal colony made of thistles and thorns, unless we make it so. It is a beautiful garden planet. The hate must go, the self hate, the hate of others. It is divisive and only creates more strife. We all make mistakes. Some are worse than others, some deserve a period of reflection and punishment, to be sure. Our true crimes, however, come from not doing the healing work necessary to take responsibility for our actions and learn from them. Ultimately we must process the pain, forgive ourselves, forgive others, and then let it go.
Peace starts within. Divisiveness exists in the world as long as judgement exists within the individuals that comprise it. To forgive does not mean we condone bad behavior, it means we accept what happened and turn it over. Remember! Learn! Then cultivate a trust in something higher. Open up and then let it go! By creating oneness within, we do our part in healing the world!
Christina Allen’s work as an Intuitive, Healer, Teacher and Founder and Director of the Austin Shamanic Center, combines a strong science background (BA Physics, MS Neuroscience) with decades of applied ancient spiritual wisdom (Master Yogi, Reiki Master, and profound Shamanic Healing based on Q’ero Indian traditions of Peru). Learn more about making private appointments, and upcoming classes, at www.AustinShamanicCenter.com or (512) 391-9829.
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