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January 01, 2017

Checking Your Emotional Hygiene

Tags: Negativity, Power Struggles, Empath, Heavy Emotions, Manipulation, Criticism

When someone has bad breath, or a skunky body odor, you just have to back up a bit and get out of range. Well, our negative emotions can be just as offensive. Someone who is always complaining, raging, or who puts a negative spin on every circumstance, ends up alienating themselves in much the same way. There are also people who try to control others through their criticisms of them. Regardless of whether there is intent behind these behaviors, no one wants to be caught in someone’s cyclones of pain and manipulation.

Emotions are something all normal people feel in response to the ups and downs of life. They have an energy that is meant to be felt, released, and moved through, as feedback about our circumstances. They are real, and feeling them is healthy. We all vibrate according to the emotional states we are in. If we are sad, or angry, we vibrate at a very low vibration. Alternatively, if we are in holy reverence, gratitude, or feeling love, we resonate at very high vibrational frequencies. The thing is, others feel our vibration, whether we can or not.

Some people do not experience their emotions at all. They operate from a safe place of “pure” logic that is out of touch with how they truly feel. They have been told their feelings are not of value. Since emotions are energy, repressing them means we are choosing to store them in our body somewhere. This can often lead to somatic symptoms, eliciting pain, or even illness. Repressed emotions do eventually find their way to the surface, however, but more often than not, they morph into rage or passive aggressiveness. 

For many, anger is the only emotion that is acceptable to express, as it commands power, instead of connoting weakness. There is a power that comes from being the naysayer as well. When we criticize others we are willfully extinguishing their enthusiasm. As their balloons of hope hiss and deflate into nothing, the critic finds himself (or herself) basking in a seductive sense of superiority. Others, still, find that they feel safer if they expect the worst, so they focus on impossibilities, rather than the possibilities of any given situation. This keeps them from feeling disappointed and disillusioned, but they want to do this with your circumstances too.

There are others, still, who instead of repressing their emotions and lashing out unexpectedly, or who rain on your parade, stay stuck in their emotions. They stew and even start to use them as weapons to manipulate others. They hold you hostage if you do not behave according to their agenda. A volley of anger puts you in your place, or perhaps they suck you in, pulling you down into their dark undertow with tales of woe.

While most of us are aware of others doing this we often are not conscious of doing it ourselves. We only know others are backing away. We all need to take stock and look at how we may be polluting our own environments with our unprocessed emotions. Do you need others to feel bad to even the playing field, for example? Perhaps you need others to feel good, so you can too? Do you need to make your point and come out on top? What is all this about?

Good emotional hygiene starts with taking responsibility for our own emotions and working through them. Instead of stuffing them, or bringing someone down to our level, or below, we need to address why we feel so small and threatened. This is the place to work. This is what stops us from feeling love and gratitude for others. We can all feel a fake happy. Choose to bring in true light instead. Shine on brothers and sisters, shine on!


Christina Allen’s work as an Intuitive, Healer, Teacher and Founder and Director of the Austin Shamanic Center, combines a strong science background (BA Physics, MS Neuroscience) with decades of applied ancient spiritual wisdom (Master Yogi, Reiki Master, and profound Shamanic Healing based on Q’ero Indian traditions of Peru). Learn more about making private appointments, and upcoming classes, at or (512) 391-9829.

© Austin All Natural, January, 2017

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