April 02, 2020
Coherence instead of Chaos: Find the solution, not the blame
Tags: Rising Sun, Sean Connery, Victim, How can I help?, Coherence instead of Chaos
Coherence Instead of Chaos
So... as I tire of all the blaming and finger pointing, however merited it might be, I find myself, at times, watching old movies... and just as I popped into the middle of one, Sean Connery’s character in Rising Sun says the following:
“The Japanese have a saying, ‘Fix the problem, not the blame.’ Find out what's f-ed up and fix it. Nobody gets blamed. We're always after who f-ed up.”
Yes, we in the west THIVE on blame. But it is a victim perspective, and a complete waste of energy. It doesn’t solve the problem, it just creates more angst and division.
We are all in this together! Yes, mistakes have been made. Of course they have. We are all in new territory here and the learning curve is steep. We are learning from our mistakes. That is at the core of developing wisdom. No one has all the answers. We are finding them now. We must be our own authorities now instead of hoping mommy and daddy will fix it.
The way we step out of victim is by assuming our own authority. We need to be asking ourselves how can I help instead of who is to blame. We all have our spheres of influence. Ask yourself how you can help within yours. It’s the little things even... but it’s energy put in the direction of a constructive solution.
The more we unite in solving the problems, the more the angst level goes down. Angst creates chaos. When we work together for the same cause we step into unity consciousness. Unity consciousness means we step out of digging into the egoic divisions that separate us, and give us claims to being “right,” and into the collective consciousness of serving our humanity. Our humanity. Yes! OUR humanity.
This is our humanity that is at stake here. No other life form is being shaken to the core. Each of us is an aspect of that collective consciousness. Your thoughts and your actions are all part of this collective organism. We are being asked to bring our individual awareness to what we bring to the equation. And then to act consciously, responsibly, constructively...
The virus comes to us as an outside agent, as something seemingly against us, because we have not found the way to unite from the inside. We both, the virus and humanity, come from the same mind. It is trying to do for us what we cannot do for ourselves, from within... until we can.
Can we not focus on peace and Unity for once? The enemy is within. The enemy is using these brilliant minds we have been given to judge and criticize, to play the eternal victim, to negate and minimize, to stratify and dominate, instead of to solve the problems at hand. It’s about frequency, vibration, and resonance. It’s about coherence!!!
Ask yourself... what can you do today to make this a better world? ❤️❤️❤️
December 01, 2016
Starting With Acceptance
Tags: Tsunami, Co-Creation, Victim of Circumstance, Winter Solstice, Surf's Up, Restoring Balance
Most of us have some sense of the way we want things to go. We have a dream, a vision. And then the world, in all its apparent chaos, happens. For many this unpredictability seems random and unsettling. On occasion it can even feel devastating. We want to have control over our outcome, and we want the world to reflect our values.
The truth is we are not in control. We may Co-Create with the Universal Force, but we cannot control it. We are an extension of it, and as such cannot make poor choices without consequence. If we are out of balance, it sometimes takes great darkness and calamity to bring us back to center. Disastrous events rise up and teach us when we are not listening. They help us evolve, clear karma, and ultimately, they restore balance.
December 01, 2015
Cultivating Our Soul Gardens
Tags: Holographic Universe, Creating your reality, Astological maps, victims of circumstance
Each of us was born into this world with a signature energetic pattern, or map, we are using to learn and evolve from. Our astrological charts, the exact positioning of the planets and asteroids at the moment of our birth, and our souls with their imprints, or unresolved past events, act as an invisible skeleton upon which we build our life experiences. What we build, however, is based on how we perceive.
As human beings, we use the five senses and intuition to measure what is happening around us and then we filter that through the mind to build perceptions about the world. We are initially unconscious of the soul maps we brought in with us, and see things as just happening to us at random. We will believe ourselves to be victims of circumstance and blame others for our discomfort. In this world of blame and shame we cultivate fear, anger and resentments, and then continue to generate similar experiences. As a person becomes more conscious, however, they will start to recognize that how their interpretation of these circumstances determines what they will experience.
December 08, 2013
The Shame of Imperfection
Tags: acceptance, awareness, blame, Empowerment, judgment, Shadow, Shame, victim, Vulnerability
Reflecting on the great shame our culture asks us to feel about not being perfect...So many crimes against self, and others, start here. The crimes of self include not recognizing our own imperfections as our medicine. As Lao Tzu reminds us, true perfection seems imperfect, yet it is perfectly itself... but we are taught early that if we don't align with arbitrary standards we should be punished or feel shame.
The crimes against others shows up as seeing our own unowned "perfection" in others and resenting them for having it. When we stop seeing our imperfections as flaws and can instead see them more like the way the addition of lead to glass creates beautiful crystal, we can dance in the light our prisms shine instead of hide in its shadows.
November 12, 2013
What You Deserve
Tags: entitlement, awareness, blame, Ego, Empowerment, self respect, Shame, victim, Withholding
Reflecting on the concept of deserving... My question is this, Who is keeping score? Who decides if in fact we do deserve something or not?! The whole concept of deserving is based entirely on a tally our ego keeps. None of it is real. We all deserve the moon! It reminds me of the concept that if we are good we will go to heaven. The rewards for living a good life are a good life, not some external pat on the back. And if we do deserve something... that implies someone else may not... What is that about?!
"No, I am sorry, you cannot have that... you do not deserve it"??? WTH?! Are we in kindergarten here?
And what if we 'don't deserve' something... He 'didn't deserve to be treated that way'... Again, who is keeping score? Stuff happens... the concept of deserving it makes it personal when in fact the unfolding of the universe is... just that... There is nothing personal about it.
October 30, 2013
The Withholder’s Drama
Tags: control, Empowerment, Negativity, Power, Scarcity, self respect, Shadow, victim, Withholding
The Withholder's power lies in the drama WE create in response to their withdrawal. Our reaction, in their minds, then further justifies their actions. Can you resist the bait of taking their actions personally? Do you really need to indulge in high drama...? Usually when we do, abandonment and rejection are part of our old stories. When we do our personal work around these issues then a Withholder is just that... someone left standing there holding onto the ball they took out of play.
October 08, 2013
The “Accidental Victim”
Tags: acceptance, Anger, blame, Emotions, judgment, victim
I'm looking at our tendency to place blame and to feel guilt this morning. When things go off course from our neat and tidy plans, or when there is an "accident," we want someone to be responsible for it. It brings up primal fears about our ability to survive in an unpredictable world. We want to find fault. We want to blame someone so we can place our emotions about the disruption someplace. Or perhaps we feel guilty that we "let" let it happen, meaning we blame ourselves. The truth is, S*** happens. Usually it happens to wake us up and make us look at what is out of alignment, or to change our intended course in some way. All of that emotion, directed outward or inward, takes the form of anger as blame. It creates gulfs between people in crisis when they could be bonding over it. Can you let yourself feel the uneasiness of the situation without couching it in "blame"? Do you need to direct those emotions somewhere or can you sit with the discomfort of them?!
September 17, 2013
Colluding With Violence
Tags: Anger, Being Present, blame, Bullying, Collusion, control, Emotions, Fear, Guilt, imprints, Projection, victim, Violence
I saw a strange thing yesterday: A young guy in a Mustang whipped around a corner and hit a middle age guy in an SUV. The SUV, however, was straddling both lanes of a narrow passageway so technically he was at fault for being in the wrong lane. It was all fender bender kind of damage but adrenaline does strange things...The SUV driver came steaming out of the SUV yelling and screaming into the face of the young Mustang driver... The young guy started crying and apologizing, in total shock. He seemed totally convinced he was in the wrong... It made me think about how often we collude with bullies and people who are angry because we are so rattled by their violence.
September 15, 2013
We Are Not Our Our Brother’s Judgments
Tags: awareness, Fear, judgment, Perception, self respect, victim
People judge. It is the intellect's way of protecting itself from threatening or uncomfortable situations. As we awaken we learn to step back from judgement and use discernment instead. Discernment is different from judgement in that there is not an emotionally based classification made, there is just a yes/no evaluation. Yes that feels like the right thing to do, no I don't resonate with that person. We cannot make others stop judging us but we can be comfortable enough with ourselves to not collude with other people's opinions of us. Judgements are not personal, they are made from within the mind of a person evaluating the safety of their environment based on their lifetime of experiences. They have everything to do with the perceiver and very little to do with the perceived. When we collude with their judgements we can lose sight of our uniqueness and strengths and feel the lessor. This often stops us from standing in our light and pushing through our fears. We cannot stop people from judging but we can choose to hold true to ourselves and maintain our course.
September 09, 2013
Those Pesky Emotions
Tags: awareness, Being Present, blame, Emotions, Shame, victim, Vulnerability
We can not control the world... only our reactions to it.
It is a prescription for victimhood to make the world responsible for our emotional well being... it very unlikely it can comply with our demands.
To remain in our power and grace we must learn to navigate our own discomfort and find ways of transmuting fear, pain and anger into understanding and compassion, creating as few ripples outward as possible.
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