August 07, 2015
Relationships from the Heart
A true relationship, based on heart and soul, means showing up in all our imperfection and being open to seeing the same in another.
It means taking responsibility for our moments of weakness...
And putting down the shield of perfection and and the sword of expectation
in exchange for the apologies
that come from erring.
We cannot connect deeply through our illusions and facades.
Real relationships are built on a foundation of trust.
True relationships invite our shadows to the table so they can be seen...
July 21, 2015
Arrogance and Humility
Arrogance and Humility are two rails we use to keep ourselves locked into a reality that we feel comfortable within.
It creates a resonance, or perceptive field, we filter our life experiences through.
One balances and realigns the other, bringing us back to a center that the ego has defined as its comfort range.
When we can break down this sense of self, this need to boost ourselves up but then pull back and keep in check...
And align with our eternal essence instead...
We free ourselves from this madness
and become one with all that is.
June 04, 2015
It is the ego's grip on identifying itself that gets in the way of true Mastery and Wisdom.
The true Mystic is not a self to be identified with but a state of being.
To identify with this state as an identity creates separation, for the ego cannot accept a self without imposing edges.
Separation, however, invites doubt, second guessing and general neurosis.
The Master rides this state of being like a surfer rides a wave.
She/He does not presume to own it or barter with it for sustenance... this would be like boxing up the ocean and offering it for sale.
Ask not "what is this, who am I, what do I know...."
To do so, spits you out of the ride and onto the sandy shores...
Spread out your arms instead,
Align your heart to the rhythm of the waves...
It is not yours to own but is yours to "be."
May 29, 2015
Living From The Heart
Looking at vulnerability... at allowing ourselves to be transparent.
Looking at how we mistake openness and kindness... for weakness...
Looking at our capacity for exploitation...
Looking at how we live in a world or armoring and self protection..
Looking at how far we still have to come to live from the heart.
May 26, 2015
Are You Listening Or Reacting?
Looking at the frailty of our human interactions... at how challenged we are to simply listen, to let someone else really sink in so we can understand them.
So often we are running what someone else says through our own filters and reacting to it instead.
So often we are looking for the opening, the way to get an upper hand, the hand grip that we can hang from to swing the interaction back to ourselves.
How often a conversation that could lead toward great connection through compassion goes astray into positioning, advice, judgement and accusation.
Do you ask questions to find out what your friend is trying to communicate, or do you make assumptions and step in to take the lead?
Do you let yourself feel what they are feeling?
Do you hold a place open for your friend to be in confusion and find their way or do you jump in with analysis or advice?
All of us are guilty of this.
At the very base this is a reminder to myself.
If it helps you remember too, so be it.
When we can listen with our hearts.. instead of our heads, we will find the connections we all so deeply want.
March 19, 2015
Change Is An Invitation
As the things that no longer resonate with you fall away, resist the temptation to see a failing in it...
This is not a time for settling for what will do, it's a time to create what you want...
What you have always settled for has never truly served you...
It is time to anchor in what does!
March 19, 2015
When we hold someone in judgement, they can be nothing other than that to us until we release that judgement.
We create a whole world of dynamics this way... most of which are rooted in our experience with the past, not our present reality.
Open up your heart, open up your mind.
Let yourself be surprised by what is, instead of bound by the limitations of your past interactions... and your resulting expectations.
March 19, 2015
Authenticity and Intimacy are two things most of us want in a relationship... Yet this is often a thin edge to balance upon.
In the name of truth, we may say things we thought needed to be said...
But in saying them the other person shuts down, creating distance instead of intimacy...
Or we can create a huge gulf by not sharing something that needs to be said...
Is there truly peace in that silence?
It is such a tricky divide between any two beings.
The souls so want to reach out and connect... and the egos so need to protect and divide...
Ah, the dance of being human....
March 02, 2015
Owning Our Emotions
Having feelings of loss, sadness, hopelessness and fear are part of the spectrum of emotions.
While they are feelings we want to process and overcome to come back into balance, they are not "shadow" unless we put them there....
Shadow is in NOT owning them in yourself and seeing them only in someone else... and judging them for it.
Behind every judgement is a fear.
Ask yourself, instead, why the expression of these emotions scare you....
March 02, 2015
Remembering Who We Are
We need Structure to interact with the Energetic, consciously.
We need to stuff it into bodies, words, concepts and institutions so we can move it around and touch it, feel it, think it...
We use archetypes to contain its many nuances and words to hold its many meanings....
We live in bodies to experience it... and create institutions to connect with it.
Ultimately, however, all these constructs are is just scaffolding, containers for Source. It is what is IN the pot that is most interesting... not the pot itself....
To argue about the validity of the structure, the color of it, its gender, or the details around how to use it properly is to lose sight the forest for the trees.
And yet, so many wars are waged around these differences... personal wars, religious wars, gender wars, race wars...
We need to remember to align with what is inside the pot instead of identifying with the kind of pot that best contains it...
It is not the lips that make a kiss...
We need to remember who we are.
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