December 01, 2017
Intimacy: Bridges Not Walls
It is often said that what we do on a personal level defines how our lives play out as a culture as well. After all, every culture is a reflection of the individuals within it. If we look at our communities right now, we see many people grappling with hate and fear. Divisiveness and anger are erupting within them, lines are being drawn, walls erected. Even weapons are being drawn. At the root of all this divisiveness is fear.
Fear permeates our personal lives as well. It can cripple emotional intimacy if we let it, much like it is undermining our country’s ability to unite. In our personal lives we usually seek out relationships that we can be “ourselves” in. We begin this process from behind a friendly facade we have constructed. It is an amalgam of the parts of ourselves we think are socially acceptable, and the fear based coping mechanisms we have developed to ensure we will not be hurt again. While this persona is safe, it is also lonely, as it negates our vulnerabilities.
November 01, 2015
Judement As A Form of Violence
I am looking at the energetics of Judgement this morning...
While each judgement we entertain feels like a private thought, judgements have an aggressive energy to them that is directed outward toward the judged.
Most of us do not take responsibility for this little piece of violence that we send out into the world, thinking it is shrouded within the privacy of our own minds...
But judgement has a palpable energy, one that creates distance
And one that is felt when it is directed at you.
We all know this...
Because we have all felt it...
I'm not saying any of us have mastered the knee jerk reaction to protect ourselves by judging...
But I am asking that we all take a step back into compassion
And take responsibility for what we are putting out there.
May 26, 2015
Are You Listening Or Reacting?
Looking at the frailty of our human interactions... at how challenged we are to simply listen, to let someone else really sink in so we can understand them.
So often we are running what someone else says through our own filters and reacting to it instead.
So often we are looking for the opening, the way to get an upper hand, the hand grip that we can hang from to swing the interaction back to ourselves.
How often a conversation that could lead toward great connection through compassion goes astray into positioning, advice, judgement and accusation.
Do you ask questions to find out what your friend is trying to communicate, or do you make assumptions and step in to take the lead?
Do you let yourself feel what they are feeling?
Do you hold a place open for your friend to be in confusion and find their way or do you jump in with analysis or advice?
All of us are guilty of this.
At the very base this is a reminder to myself.
If it helps you remember too, so be it.
When we can listen with our hearts.. instead of our heads, we will find the connections we all so deeply want.
March 02, 2015
Owning Our Emotions
Having feelings of loss, sadness, hopelessness and fear are part of the spectrum of emotions.
While they are feelings we want to process and overcome to come back into balance, they are not "shadow" unless we put them there....
Shadow is in NOT owning them in yourself and seeing them only in someone else... and judging them for it.
Behind every judgement is a fear.
Ask yourself, instead, why the expression of these emotions scare you....
January 18, 2014
Imprints and Spiritual Materialism
After several recent incidents, I find myself wanting to address the difference between expressing real time emotions and having imprints or issues....
Those of us who have learned about imprints in our energy fields have realized that when these imprints are triggered we get derailed into emotions from the past. We realize that to be the best healers, or even friends, lovers and colleagues we can be, we need to look into our own selves and heal these imprint driven issues that keep us from being in the present.
January 01, 2014
Happy New Year 2014
Happy New Year Friends!
I am feeling truly blessed to have so many amazing people in my life. I want to encourage each of you, as I remind myself, to be kind. To treat the people you love with respect, even if you do not agree with them or you feel they have hurt you in some way. Most crimes to the heart come from crimes of the mind. Remember, life is not a contest; focus not on winning but on manifesting your own highest destiny. Use compassion instead of judgement, try walking in someone else's shoes instead of condemning them for not meeting your code. Everything is exactly as it is "supposed" to be already. Most likely the expectations you are asking them to live up to are the ones you still have not met yourself. Know your words are tools and you can use them to hurt as well as to heal. Ask yourself what you are creating in the world, each moment, with your words and your actions... with every being... and choose to create kindness.
Love to All! Happy 2014!
December 21, 2013
Happy 2013 Winter Solstice
Happy Solstice! This is a powerful time for introspection and planting the seeds for your evolution in the upcoming year.
By all accounts, astrologically, 2014 will be a another year of great flux. Many of us are over the high seas and changing change of the last couple of years... but it looks like for most of us, the ride isn't over yet. As most surfers know waves come in in sets... we are still in the middle of the 2012 shift and will be into 2015. Instead of fighting the chaos, I invite you to get your boards out and ride!
October 27, 2013
Dealing With Shadow Elements In Another
Reflecting on how to navigate the emotions that arise when dealing with another person's shadow actions. We all have things we cannot see in shadow, things that, if they are not brought to light, can come out and nip at others when we least expect it. Being on the receiving end can hurt and/or make us angry, but often the other person does not even know they are doing it. Forgiveness, compassion and gratitude are the high vibration emotions that take us out of defensive positions and put us in that more mythic, Hummingbird state, allowing us to rise out of the muck of being hurt. An eye-for-an-eye begets another eye... Compassion, for you know you have done it too... and Forgiveness, allow us to drop it and move into neutrality and joy again.